WE ALL DIE.

We need to get over the fear about discussing death. Inevitably we are all dying and we will all die.

Unfortunately, some of us will die sooner then we are supposed to. Some of us hang on much longer then we should as well, but either way we need to stop hiding from it.

We should discuss with our loved one’s want we want at end of life.

We should express what we’d like our funeral/celebration of life/memorial to include.

We should discuss and decide how we wish to be laid to rest.

We should have our affairs in order, for when we are gone it’s easier for our loved one’s to deal.

Is this a bit morbid? Probably, but it's weighed heavily on my mind for quite awhile. We plan for everything else in our lives. Why not plan for our eventual death?

I’m not implying obsess about dying, but prepare for it. The last thing anyone wants to do is discuss this particular stuff on their death bed.

Or even worse, never get the chance to discuss it and have your loved ones left behind trying to navigate all of the planning while grieving. Not knowing if it's what you wanted.

Most importantly, if you are the loved one of someone trying to discuss their end of life and after plans with you, don’t shut them down.

Don’t tell them “not to think that way” or respond “we’ll discuss it later”. It's not "giving up" on them or losing hope by discussing it.

You need to let them express their wishes to you.

You need to let them get it off their mind.

They need help in planning the inevitable.