MY GRIEF IS NOT YOUR GRIEF

It’s "funny" how the people who have “been there” can be the most opinionated about your grief. The people you expect to be more empathetic to your feelings, since they've experienced loss.

Your grief is not my grief, and vice versa.

Your loved one may have passed away peacefully, while another’s passed traumatically. This impacts the way your grieve tremendously.

You may need a lot of time off work to grieve, or you could be someone who grieves better when keeping up with your daily routine.

You may feel the need to surround yourself with lots of people or you may need alone time for your grief.

You may want to express your grief by talking about it or writing about it. Or it’s best for you to not discuss it at all.

You could grieve by doing one on one counseling with a grief counselor, or you grieve by going to a support group with other grievers.

None of these scenarios is the wrong way to grieve. Your grieving process is personal to you. Don’t be judgemental or upset that another person isn’t grieving the way you did. Be empathetic that the person who is grieving is doing the best they can in circumstances people aren’t equipped with.

If you still feel the need to express your opinions of someone else’s grief process then frankly as nicely as possible, I think you should just shove it up you’re ass.